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 HELP MATE VS. HELL MATE are two different mates.  When God created Woman from Man he spoke of the woman being his HELP MATE.  Women has been naturally created to be there for their HUSBANDS through THICK AND THIN, unfortunately, the world system has twisted God's commandment with creating HELL MATES.  Hell mates are women that are BEING CONDITONAL WIVES and bought into the lies and deceit of the world society.  We as a whole have to get better with TAKING AND LIVING THE VOWS of a HUSBAND and WIFE.  Families are being DESTROYED daily because the DUTIES OF HELP MATE HAS BEEN BITEN BY A HELL MATE AND THEIR DYSFUNCTIONAL INFLUENCES. 

Tune in Sunday, Sept. 12, 2010 from 6:30 P.M. to 6:45 P.M. at www.blogtalkradio.com/tonyaeakamrn, as we discuss the TRUE MEANING AND WHAT IT TAKE TO BE A HELP MATE VS. HELL MATE WITH AUTHOR WENDY PETERSON.

Who Is Wendy Peterson?  Wendy Peterson was born and raised in a single parent home in the Collinwood Community of Cleveland, Ohio where she gained strength, knowledge and wisdom.  Today the author  is a mother of four, a wife, compliance professional, professor at multiple colleges, writer, motivational speaker and full-time doctorate student and has also been coined the "Mission Minded Maven".

Wendy has written a very powerful memoir that extends beyond color and creed, Memoirs of a Soldiers Wife will move men, women and children alike. We invite you to e</span>xperience the "Personal Masterpiece" of intimate, heart-felt encounters relevant to how families of American Soldiers are being affected by the War in Iraq and various peace-keeping missions. Memoirs of a Soldier’s Wife will lead you through the good, the bad and great times. As her husband completes his military commitment and final deployment, read first-hand how she conquers difficulty throughout the entire deployment.

For more information visit www.stellisandco.com. 

Hello Everyone!!  It's Aaron and Ave' and we were volunteers and participants in the Fit Family Fest in Atlanta, GA!!! We've been a part of the SWEET WHEAT challenge and man when I tell you it's been effective, it's been effective!! Unfortunately, we had some user name/password challenges getting on the site so our updates were being routed via a different means!!

SWEET WHEAT ROCKS!!

Not only has it improved our energy, it has amped up our elimination and fostered an overall feeling of wellness! We were already water drinkers and eating better but in addition made a firmer committment to eat more fruits and vegetables and get more exercise! I have water aerobics twice a week that I had been doing for the past year - Now I have moved to 4 times a week. I suffer with lower extremity lymphedema so anything that improves wellness and causes my lymph fluid to move is good.
We will be posting our after challenge pictures in the next day or so. We have found that we are able to fit clothes that we could not fit before we began taking SWEET WHEAT!!


More to come.....

Dear Judge Hatchett,

             I was honored to meet you at Xernona Clayton’s Birthday Celebration. Thank you for inviting me to join Parent Power Now, and I look forward to dialoguing with the members. Parent Power Now is a vital outreach to foster families, and you demonstrate that people are your purpose. Thank you for the opportunity to be part of this great movement to empower parents worldwide. I pray your audience will receive my story and share it with others.

            I was suffering from depression, full blown menopause when I met Lanika, and I wanted to die. Lanika was from a dysfunctional family of a generational curse of sibling incarceration. Lanika lived in many homes including a group home before God allowed me to intervene in her life. As a result, she saved my life. (Eunita Winkey) Here is a snapshot of our  story: 

 HOW MRS. WINKEY CHANGED MY LIFE

            Growing up, I was the second youngest of six children. My parents were married at the age of 20 in Dillon, South Carolina where they were born and raised. Shortly after they gave birth to my oldest brother a few years later my second oldest brother was born. My parents then moved to Arlington, Virginia, where the rest of my siblings and I was born. My parents had three boys and three girls and out of all of them I am the only one with a different father. Because of this I was ostracized, picked on and made to feel as if I did not belong in the family by my older siblings, and sometimes their father. My mother never treated me any different, and at times I felt like I received better treatment than my siblings.

When I was 16 years old my mother suddenly died from an aneurysm on May 15, 2002. My mother went into the hospital the day before Mother’s Day  that year and never came out and to this day Mother’s Day is always a sad day. I was always very close to my mother and took her death very hard and looked at it as the only person who ever loved me had been taken away.

Not long after my mother died, I felt alone so I attached myself to my boyfriend and became pregnant in August 2002. I did not learn that I was pregnant until a month later, and did not learn that I was carrying twins until four months later! Going into my junior year in high school was very difficult because I was still dealing with the death of my mother.  I looked at the pregnancy like I would be bonding with a child that would love me no matter what.

Mrs. Winkey was my accounting teacher, and this was my first time meeting her. She really took to me, offered me her help during this difficult time in my life. While in school I was going through more things, such as my step father wanted me to move to Dumfries, VA., and I did not want to because I wanted to finish out school at my current high school. If fact, my step-father had just been released from prison for serving nine years for a shooting incident, and my mother did not take him back after he was released from prison. My older sister had taken over the apartment that my mother had left behind so I wanted to stay with her so I could continue to attend my same school. This caused a problem between my step father along with him saying that he was glad I was not his child did not help the situation. No one knew that I was pregnant at this time, and neither did I, so my step-father and I got into a heated argument. He left and I stayed with my sister until she put me out of the apartment. By this time my sister knew that I was pregnant, and told me to get an abortion. She stated if I kept the baby she he would not help me raise the child. With all this going on, back at school Mrs. Winkey saw that something was wrong with me and again offered me her help and gave me all of her numbers to reach her and I gave her my contact numbers as well. Knowing from other experiences with teacher’s I knew that they offer their help but do not provide it when confronted so I thought this was going to be the same thing so I just threw the numbers away. Shortly after that and about two months into my junior year, my step father was still mad at me, so his way of getting back at me was to go and withdrew me from school. So now I am 16, pregnant, no longer in school, and a few weeks later my sister and I got into an argument, and she put me out. I went to live with my boyfriend and his family, who was not happy about me being pregnant and also wanted me to get an abortion. I refused because my mother never believed in abortions and neither do I. Living with my boyfriend and his family was not the best situation but I had nowhere else to go.

Months into my pregnancy, I had started back talking to my family, even my step father, and my sister said she wanted to give my baby shower so I let her. After returning from the baby shower I had a message from Mrs. Winkey, who I had almost forgotten about. The next day I called her back and we talked and she wondered why I didn’t call her or invite her to the baby shower, and I explained that I did not know she was serious when she offered me help. From that day we stayed in constant contact, and when I gave birth the principal had a substitute to take her class so she could come to the hospital to support me. The twins were born on May 21, 2003, a year later on the same day that my mother was buried. Mrs. Winkey asked me if she could be the twin’s godmother, and I agreed.

When I was released from the hospital my boyfriend’s mother told me that I should find somewhere to go because I could not stay there with them. So I called Mrs. Winkey and told her this and her and her husband allowed me to come and stay with them. This was a great change because it was very stressful living with my boyfriend’s family, and he and I were not seeing eye-to-eye anymore so it helped me a lot. I stayed with Mrs. Winkey for about two months or so. During this time she had me sign up to take the Maryland GED. Within 30 days of the twin’s birth, I took the GED pretest and passed.

After staying with Mrs. Winkey and confiding in her about everything that I have been through she shared her life stories with me. I felt like I finally had someone who truly cared about me and the twins, and was there to help us. While living with her, she was in contact with my step father and younger sister. She learned that they were having problems so she suggested that it would be best for me to move in with my step father so I could help my younger sister with her issues. So I went and stayed with them for about two months or so and it did not work out. Therefore, I went to stay with my oldest sister, who now lived in Maryland, again until my boyfriend and I got an apartment of our own in Arlington.

Once we were settled in Mrs. Winkey helped with minor furnishing so that I would be comfortable in my new home. She did not let me forget about taking the final test for my GED. On the day of the test, she came from Maryland to Virginia to pick me up to take me for my final GED test.  I was happy that she would go out of her way to make sure I got a high school diploma. I took the final test and received my GED diploma. She told me that once I passed the test that I should enroll in college so that I could continue my education. I passed the test and was the first to finish the test and received my GED. With all Mrs. Winkey discussions about me starting college, it took five years before I finally started. She called me over to her house, sat me down in front of the computer and made me fill out a FAFSA, and guided me through the enrollment process at the University of Phoenix online degree program. In fact, three years prior she visited the campus in Silver Spring, MD., and had the counselor to contact me. This time she was not listening to anymore excuses. This was the best thing that she could have ever done for me. If I had to do it I would probably still be procrastinating, and making excuses. I am the first person in my family to attend college, and with my guidance my younger sister is also attending college, and in the Army Reserve. In our long journey Mrs. Winkey is no longer Mrs. Winkey to me, she is my MOM! While she may not be my birth mother, she has filled in by making sure that I succeed and accomplish everything that I desire. I know that I can always count on her and husband Marvin to be there for me and my twins. She gives me words of wisdom when needed, even if it is not needed. My mom has helped me through a very tough time when my own family was not there, and I appreciate everything that she has done, and often tell her that as well.

From the day that my mom walked into my life (or I walked into hers in a classroom) she has stayed true to her word and helped me. She is a new breed of teachers and more teachers should be like her because they could really make a difference in a person’s life, as long as they mean what they say and say what they mean. (Lanika)

The phrase "it takes a village to raise one child" is used so loosely these days. When I hear others talk about their communities I wonder, where have all the village people gone?? A lot of parents keep their children shut up in the house because they claim it's not safe to let kids play like we used to growing up. So I ask, what are you doing to make your community safe? A lot of parents transport their children outside of the neighborhood to different afterschool activities ( sports, dance, gym, etc). So I ask, how do you expect your neighbors to look out for your kids......do you even know your neighbors? A lot of parents take offense to others addressing or redirecting their children. So I ask, if not the village people then who is allowed to give guidance to your children? How can we say "it takes a village to raise one child" when everyone is doing their own thing in the village?  What's happened is that the village people are made to feel they are not needed and as a result, there is a break down in the community support system. The collaborative concept of raising children in the village seems to be obsolete. So how do we collaborate enough to get back to get back to this age old parenting style? Is it even still necessary in today's community? I say yes, it is still necessary!

I'm thankful that I live in a great community in which some of that village mentality still exists. When I can't be at the bus stop with my child in the mornings, my neighbor a few homes down is standing by and other neighbors slow down during their morning commute when they see her walk to the bus stop in order to keep her safe. When I can't meet my special needs child off the bus in the afternoon, my neighbor across the street is willing to help by greeting him. When my kids are playing in the yard, the neighbors next door are at a watchful distance. And though I would do the same for them, some of these neighbors do not have children. It's just in them to "be there" as concerned villagers. This is why I believe the village concept can still work and will work........only if parents and the community take the initiative to make it work.

Having fun at the dinner table with a game from Character Avenue! The Grandson is learning a new way to behave. Thanks Gloria!

On 20/20, they are featuring children in America who have albinism and the discrimination and / or challenges they go through! I'm truly shocked and sadened at how their peers and others would treat them in this day and age. Please talk to your children about diversity and ethnicity! The only way to decrease ignorance is to teach respect for others along with social tolerance. And this is an ongoing lesson to teach as children are now exposed to so many different types of people and cultures.

I have been taking sweet wheat for the past few weeks. I can see see a big difference since I began taking it. I have enjoyed an enormaous increase in energy, which was a big problem for me. I am working on getting my family more active, and outdoors more often to promote healthy living.

Unfortunately, my husband is struggling with obesity. So this topic directly hits our home. With our 2 very young impressionable children who love their daddy, it seems like it's an uphill battle to get him to "set the healthy example" for them. So in order to take the lead on this, I have to monitor portion and content control with meals. We're doing more veggies and fruits, less meat. And with the kids, they are required to have one healthy snack and wait before consuming (as I call them) the fatty snacks (chips, cookies, etc). Eventually, we are going to decrease the fatty snacks and / or balance it out. The good news is that my children do not have weight issues (in spite of their father's condition) and are more so on the petite size for their age. But I never want them to take for granted that just because they are small, they can "afford" to eat anything and how much they want. I'm striving to teach moderation with our food choices because I know we have the risk factors for obesity and diabetes in our family genetics.
Since we are more "visual learners", I'm thinking about posting a picture of the food pyramid with serving sizes directly on the refrigerator or cabinet. So each time they want to reach for something to eat, there is a constant reminder of what is appropriate.
Any suggestions??

How many women today thought they were Daddy's Little Girl, however only find out you were not? How many times have you heard in family conversation that you, yes you were the product of an adultery? How many times do you as an adult think about the consequences of your fleshly desires? Have you ever gave it any thought of the seeds you are planting for the your daughters of adultery? Society never speaks about the daughters of adultery and the reaping of the seeds from the parents that chose to get caught up in their fleshly desires. For all those that are old enough to remember the song titled, " Back Door Sally " it was a message telling on people that were committing adultery. There should have been a response song titled, " Shut the Door Sally! "

With so much adultery being accepted today by the media ~ we have to remember God spoke against Adultery and the Lust of the FLESH! Join us on August 29, 2010, from 6:30 P.M. to 6:45 P.M. as Host Tonya E. aka Miss Right Now shares TRUTH to the pain many women endure by being the product of Adultery! Before you decide to go on that date with a MARRIED MAN or a MARRIED MAN THAT CLAIMS TO BE UNHAPPY IN HIS MARRIAGE ~ STOP AND RESPOND NO THANK YOU MY SALVATION IS WORTH MORE!!!! Call in number 347-202-0499!!!

I't time we HEAL our communities and THINK BEFORE WE REPEAT PATTERNS OF PAIN!!!

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